Top 10 Reasons Men Don’t Want Sex

Yes, it’s true, ladies. Sometimes even us males are not
interested in don’t want to have sex. As it turns out it’s
one of those “It’s not you, it’s me” deals. Classic! From
WebMD:
1.	Medications. Antidepressants (SSRI-type) and
antihypertensives (blood pressure medication) are often the
culprit when a man has a lowered interest in sexual
activity. These can also cause sexual dysfunction. 
2.	Lack
of sleep. When a man is in his teens or twenties, the
opportunity to have sex will often overwhelm the desire to
sleep. This is often true also when a relationship is brand
new. But, as people and relationships age, sex can lose its
compelling nature and a good night’s rest can be quite
tempting. 
3.	Hormonal levels. The most important
physiological stimulant of sexual desire is testosterone.
Many men are mistakenly sent to have a blood test for total
testosterone when low libido is the issue. While that
information might be interesting to know to have a full
picture of a man’s hormonal levels, knowing the free
testosterone level is much more relevant to how much sex he
desires. Also, too much prolactin and SHBG (sex hormone
binding globulin) can suppress sexual desire. So when a
hormonal reason is suspected, these are the blood tests to
have (in order of importance): free testosterone, prolactin,
SHBG, and total testosterone. 
4.	Identity issues. When men
feel uncertain about their role in the world, their desire
for sex can dwindle. Depression may be linked to this, but
isn’t always. Identity issues can crop up when: he has
issues at work or is out of work, faces the death of an
important family member, becomes disheartened about a
formerly held strong belief, and questions his understanding
of his own sexual orientation — to name a few. 
5.	Turn-off
to aspects of the sex. Some men will turn away from sex
rather than have sex that is not fulfilling to them. Lack of
fulfillment can be related to specific things that his
partner does during sex or how he experiences his partner’s
body. He may feel criticized or treated unfairly. It may
just seem like too much “work.” He may have sexual interests
that he knows or fears his partner may not share.

6.	Disagreements with one’s mate. When there are
interpersonal difficulties between the members of a couple,
many men will avoid sex or just plain refuse their partner’s
advances. Some men punish their partner by withholding sex,
but for others it’s not a matter of punishment, they just
cannot muster sexual feelings when there are unresolved
conflicts. 
7.	Stress. Stress comes in many forms and may
stem from: financial difficulties, personal or family member
illness, challenges at work, parenting dilemmas, and issues
involving extended family members. Of course, there are many
more sources of stress. 
8.	Masturbation that replaces
partnered sex. This is a hot topic since the advent of the
Internet. It seems to some researchers in this field that
many men who might not have sought out other sources of
visual sexual stimulation (magazines, videos, movies) have
found their way to locate sexual imagery online. For some
couples, this can be a dilemma, particularly when the
viewing of the images leads to masturbation, that then leads
to less partnered sex. Less partnered sex feels like a
blessing to some, but to others it is a frustrating and
disappointing outcome. 
9.	Fear of intimacy. Some men have
relationships with their romantic partner that resemble that
of siblings. The contact that they experience in their
relationship takes the intimacy level up so high that adding
sexual intimacy on top of that feels like an overload.
Though it may be difficult to imagine that a person could
have too much intimacy, it is the hunch of many sex experts
today that this is a very common cause of declining sexual
frequency in couples. 
10.	Difficulties functioning
sexually. Many men who have an erection dysfunction or
believe that they ejaculate too soon — or too late (if at
all), will avoid having sex with their partner. Rather than
face what feels like another experience of “failure” in our
performance-obssessed culture, these men choose to avoid
being sexual at all.